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CYRANOS OFFER A GUIDING HAND THROUGH INTERNET DATING MAZE
NEW
YORK (AFP) - Single female, 35, attractive, likes movies,
music. Would like to meet sincere, kind, good-looking man
for long-term relationship.
The
message is sweet, short, simple, and, according to an emerging
breed of online dating consultants, totally useless. "I
mean, 'I like movies' is classic. You might as well say 'I
like breathing' for all the information it imparts or interest
it arouses," said David Evans, founder of the Web-based
firm ProfileDoctor.
Online
dating is booming in the United States and Evans, 34, is one
of a number of young dot-com pioneers who see a potential
gold mine in the niche market of providing profile makeovers
for unimaginative lonely hearts.
According
to the Web tracking service comScore Media Matrix, more than
45 million Americans logged on to Internet dating sites in
the month of May, and subscriber spending on those sites is
running at around 100 million dollars a quarter, compared
with 10 million dollars two years ago.
Given
such enormous volume, the ability to put together a profilethat
stands out from the crowd is a rare and powerful commodity.
For 35 dollars, visitors to Evans's site, www.profiledoctor.com,
can submit an existing profile, which is analyzed and returned
with feedback and suggestions on how it can be improved.
A
Los Angeles-based firm's site, www.e-cyrano.com, offers a
choice of packages, ranging from a 40-dollar "bronze"
service that provides basic profile editing to a 200-dollar
"platinum" option where a personal consultant writes
a profile from scratch and follows up with a 30-minute phone
consultation.
"Success
at Internet dating is not defined by ending up with a wedding
ring," said e-Cyrano founder Evan Katz. "It's about
consistently meeting decent, quality people, and that's what
we can help with."
Both
Evans and Katz say the most common problem with the profiles
they see is a reliance on bland, generic statements of the
"I like music" variety.
To
one male customer who had written that he wanted to meet a
"sexy" woman, Evans offered the following advice:
"What is 'sexy' to you? High-heeled boots, tattoos and
an attitude? Laura Ashley, prairie-dress girl, Web mistress
geek?
"Give
them something to go on; otherwise, they will pass by you
and go on to the next guy."
At
the same time, the consultants warn against a tendency to
exaggerate or even lie -- a common complaint among online
daters.
"It
sounds obvious, but honesty is important," said Katz.
"Saying you are six-foot-one, when in fact you're five-foot-eight
may help you get a date, but guess what -- she is going to
find out in the end."
Too
much honesty, however, can also be a turnoff. "Don't
say that the main thing you learned from your last relationship
was not to go out with an alcoholic who beat you. It's way
too much information, " said Katz.
Both
consultants voiced amazement at the fact that common sense
is often the first thing to get discarded when people dive
into the Internet dating pool.
A
particular problem area is the accompanying photograph, which
all too often has the subject totally obscured in a hat and
sunglasses, or even hugging an old boyfriend or girlfriend.
"And you would be stunned at how many men go for the
arms akimbo, drink in one hand, I'm-totally-drunk look,"
said Evans.
"Then
you have the women whose photos are nothing but cleavage.
And that's fine, so long as you realise that 80 percent of
your respondents will be nappy-wearing perverts who live in
their mothers' basements."
Getting
the right photograph is the speciality of New York-based Mindy
Stricke, who set up her website www.singleshots.com in June
after being laid off from her job as a producer with the NBC
news network.
Stricke,
30, charges 125 dollars for a 30-minute photo shoot, after
which the subject will end up with two digital portraits,
ready for uploading to a singles site.
Despite
the increasing popularity of online dating, Stricke says she
often has to counsel people who are worried about the "loser"
stigma that still sticks to the idea.
"Some
people are like, 'OK, I'm going to a photographer. Am I weird
for doing that?' And I say, look, it's totally cool, everyone
deserves a good photograph," she said.
"The
picture should look like a friend took it -- only a friend
who happens to be a really good photographer," she added.
One
of Stricke's customers reported getting 1,100 hits in one
week on the leading US dating site, Match.com, after posting
her new photo.
Online
dating consultancy is still in its infancy, but the number
of cyber-Cyranos is growing fast, with names like cyberdatingguru.com
and solvedating.com.
"It's
like that old funeral business adage that there will always
be the demand," said Katz. "It's the same for the
love business. People will never stop looking for love."
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